Like many other women (and bloggers) striving to improve themselves, I like to have a specific person to look to; to emulate. A woman I can visualize and ask myself, "What would 'she' do in this situation?" Finding that "she" who inspires me has been more difficult than I thought.
At first, "she" was an ambiguous chic woman who exists or existed in real life. I tried Audrey Hepburn. But I'm 6'2" with a curvy figure. And although I adore Audrey, I can't personally relate to her image.
Then I tried Jackie Onassis. I admire her as an American icon and as one of our nation's most elegant and stylish women of all time, but again, I can't relate to her. She's out of my realm: First Lady to our most beloved President, grew up privileged, and married a billionaire.
Next, another Audrey - Audrey Tatou. Gorgeous, French, loved her in Coco Before Chanel and Amèlie. But still just not the right "she". Too young, maybe? Too pert?
I used to think about Angelina Jolie as a possibility. I think she's one of the top five most beautiful women in the world. And she has done incredibly unselfish humanitarian deeds. Angelina seems to ignore what the gossip rags say about her and doesn't get sucked in to the whole Hollywood starlet role as much as her famous counterparts.
But I have a problem with her. She has a past that I have a hard time overlooking.
I found my "she" while searching for photos for yesterday's post. I wanted a photo of a striking woman to make the point that it is tasteful to admire and appreciate beautiful, stylish women.
The first woman who came to mind was Monica Bellucci.
She starred in an Oscar nominated movie from 2000 called Malèna that I watched a few months ago. It was the first time I had seen Monica in a film.
It's a lovely Italian movie; a feast for the eyes. Bellucci is gorgeous and sexy throughout, wearing many fantastic outfits. And it was filmed in Sicily with breathtaking scenery.
I don't know much about Monica. Just this:
She's almost 46.
Recently had her second child.
She is Italian (from Umbria).
She speaks French, English, some Spanish and of course, Italian.
She went to law school but dropped out to pursue a career in modeling and acting.
She married her second husband (French actor, Vincent Cassel) in 1999.
That is all I want to know for now. I am happy with the image of her that I have created for myself as a guide to being the woman I want to be.
Here are some pictures of Monica, looking très chic. There are more sexy photos of her online than anything else, she is an international sex symbol after all, but I prefer the more conservative pictures.
|Love the eyeliner|
|Simple and striking|
And if you were wondering how much of her beauty is smoke and mirrors (makeup and Photoshop), here's Monica on the cover of French Elle with no smoke and no mirrors ("sans fards" - love that term).
Lastly, here is Monica in a recent photo. She is aging beautifully, yes?
Monica may or may not be confident, graceful, cultured, sophisticated, wise, stylish and chic. But I perceive her to be all of those things. That is what having a "she" is all about.
From now on, when confronted with a decision of whether or not to eat a hastily made sandwich standing over the sink, watch a brain cell dissolving television program, spread gossip about someone else, or spend money on a trendy outfit because it's what everyone is wearing, I will stop and ask myself:
"What would Monica do?"
Who is your "she" and why?