There are lots of changes afoot at Chez Rich Life. Changes that include an unexpected shift in family dynamics, more hours away from home for my husband, and a possible new job for me which may mean less time for volunteering, blogging and other leisurely activities. These are all positive changes, but big changes nonetheless.
Change and I have a hard time getting along now that I am older. I used to be so adaptable in my youth having moved around often as a child, experiencing my parents’ divorce in my teens and living on my own since I was 17.
Now, instead of accepting change as a part of life, I try to keep things the way they are/were. Change? Well, she mocks me and creates even more changes. I’m starting to realize the more I resist her and try to push her away, the more unhappy, jittery, and unpleasant-to-live-with I become.
Struggling to accept the recent and upcoming adjustments, I searched online for help and came across this diagram that succinctly describes the various stages of coping with change.
|The Change Cycle|
See the “Danger Zone” at the bottom? That is where I have been for the last two days. Anxious, confused, unproductive and might I add, rather unfriendly. This wheel helped me see that what I’ve been experiencing is totally normal and expected. What a relief!
This morning, I am off to the gym to work off some of my tension while I wait for the anticipation, resourcefulness and energy in Stage 4 to show up (please, show up soon!). It’s the only quick way I know to ease the stresses of change.